Relationship Red Flag: Criticism

What are red flags I should look for in dating? A common red flag is constant criticism.  Criticism of a partner is the transformation of a mistake into a character flaw.  It can be plainly in sight such as "You are always late" or "you never keep track of time."  Or it can be more subtle, hidden beneath a joke like "You know my girlfriend: she can never keep her life together."  Constant criticism usually involves words like "you always" or "you never."  It's accusatory, meant to put down the other partner instead of constructively addressing a problem.  Instead look for someone that can voice a concern in a helpful way, such as "I feel uncomfortable when we're late to something, what would help us be on time?"  This type of gentle consideration makes for a healthy relationship. 

Criticism is a very common issue that couples want to improve on when they seek couples therapy at Gulf Wind Counseling. We employ therapy techniques from the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy that help couples change their communication and emotional interaction patterns.   

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